RESOLVE: The National Infertility Association is in the midst of launching a new public awareness campaign: “People with Infertility Are Being Ignored.”
This campaign focuses on an age old problem that has haunted people with infertility since the beginning of time – it is a disease of shame and shaming. And what I know about shame is that it creates silence. When you are in a place of shame – what you are saying “Please do not notice me”.
And if people suffering with infertility are not noticed – then we will not get the health care that we need. That is what ACT UP was all about. It was getting people who have hid in the shadows to come out and be seen – and a cure. It is way past raising awareness – it is about taking away the problem.
So how do we create a Shameless community that is willing to not only educate and raise awareness but demand health care coverage and a cure? That is truly the question. We all know that shame breeds silence – and silence allows for inaction.
Barbara Collura, Executive Director of RESOLVE wants everyone to take a pledge to raise infertility awareness. Okay – that sounds good. I have been doing that for 20 years – and yet when I recently allowed one of my blogs to be reprinted on a website that has varied content called Carnalnation – my blog was FLAMED. Now this website has EVERYTHING on it – and the readers decide to shame infertility? That should tell you something about how so many people view infertility! Do you want to see shaming and ignorance at it’s best? Go check out the comments. Are these the kind of comments that keeps many in the closet? I didn’t respond to even one of them to try to raise awareness. I thought about it several times – but I just didn’t have the strength to wrestle with ignorance.
Let’s face it – it is risky for anyone to go out there – and talk about infertility. There are people who still feel that people who are struggling with infertility are selfish, narcissistic wanna be breeders and that the government should not do anything to help them – as there are more important issues at hand. You know – like world peace.
And world peace is important. But I can’t help but remember what a Rabbi said once to me – what he said was that when you help one family – you are saving a world. Because for that family – it is their world.
So – how brave are you? Are you ready to take the pledge? Are you ready to save the world? One world? Start a blog. Make noise on Facebook – Twitter with a #Infertility in your message. Respond to the comments on CarnalNation.com!!!
And by the way – if you just don’t have the strength – I get it.
Posted under Advocacy, Fertility, Fertility Blogs, Fertility Support, Infertility, RESOLVE, change
This post was written by pmadsen on August 31, 2010






















