My life has taken was pretty interesting twists. I never thought that I would become a well known fertility and sex advocate – and I never particularly wanted to be a school teacher (my first career). In fact, I wanted to be a nurse! I even attended nursing school, but they overbooked their clinical and continuing on that course would have delayed my graduation from college by two years. I still regret not having my RN. But, I have lived a life with few regrets. It is not that I have not had huge disappointments – and life shattering pain. I don’t know many people who have not. It is just that I have learned that tremendous life openings can be initiated by those dark painful moments. We just have to tune in – and listen to our next life purpose. I truly believe that we have more than one. I believe that they simply build on each other….
If I hadn’t experienced infertility – I would not be living the life that I am living now – and doing the work that gives me joy every day. Infertility was my “dark night of the soul”. When I thought that I would never have a child – I briefly crumbled. Through the pain, shame, fear, and disappointment – a new woman was born – and then eventually two sons. In the end – infertility was a gift to me.
Through my need to give myself a voice as a patient – I became a voice for thousands. Through my outrage and determination – I was able to lead and work with others to create a new organization – The American Fertility Association - that still stands today. And through my decision to leave that organization which was a difficult, complicated and painful decision for me – I can now speak freely to you without the fetters of being a spokesperson for a national non profit organization.
Instead, I have the freedom of working for an innovative thinker Dr.David Kreiner - and -an incredible team of doctors, nurses, and staff at East Coast Fertility that supports me in being nothing less than authentic - and say what I believe is real. It has been an extraordinary change for me – not having to worry about sponsors and egos – and only think about the patient.
And it is a part of this new life – of being able to take my twenty some odd years (I started very young!) of experience as a fertility advocate that has brought me to this place of being a “Fertility and Sexuality Blogger”. Five days a week I get to wake up – sip my coffee – and think about our incredibly complicated world of reproductive health – and share those thoughts with you. Every day I get to think about the stories and the science that create the world that I swim in. Every day I get to weigh in – and speak from my heart. How cool is that?
I have met some incredible people by blogging. There is this incredible network of reproductive health bloggers – and we are all different. Some of us are writing in “real time” about their current journey – and some of us are writing from a different perspective – the perspective born out of past experience.
We stimulate each others writing by reading sharing each others thoughts. Sometimes we agree with other – and sometimes we don’t. If I didn’t have this blog, Facebook or twitter account - I would have missed knowing them – and that would have been a loss. And then there are “the readers” who jack into this blog. Those of you that are going through fertility treatment, struggling with your sexuality – industry – the media – doctors and others – who tune in to see what I am talking about each day. I love the opportunity to continue to share my thoughts on this ever changing topic of fertility and other issues that are central to being human. It has been great hearing from you. I love comments. Please leave comments. I am not talking about compliments – I am asking you to share your own thoughts.
Oprah is did this great series on “Living our Best Life“. You can find it all on line. Being a Fertility Blogger – and continuing my work as a voice for the fertility patient – and my emerging voice for women struggling with sexuality and self image. It has truly been a part of me living my best life. I am truly grateful for the opportunity.
Thank you for reading.