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Talking, writing, educating, and change making in the field of fertility for more than twenty years

One of the biggest causalities of infertility can be our relationship with our own bodies. The feelings of betrayal and the unfortunate link to our sexuality.  Going through infertility, whether we end up with a baby through birth, adoption or end up living child free can knock the stuffings out of our relationship with our partners and with ourselves. I know that it did for me.  I felt like I was never going to find my libido again, I didn’t feel sexy – and I couldn’t quite remember when I ever did.

Few of us ever take the time to get in touch with our bodies & our sexuality whether we go through a life trauma like infertility or not. And there are only so many books you can read on healing your relationship with your body and your own sexuality before you realize that just talking and reading isn’t going to do it.

The fact is that there are few retreats with the expertise, love and safety that women need to take such a vulnerable journey. But without this journey it’s almost impossible to live the kind of sexy empowered life we want.

I have taken this journey, and it has been my secret to living life as a turned on woman. I want to share it with you and invite you back into your body (maybe it’s your first visit!) and let the sexy flow in your own life.

Back To The Body: A Sensuous Retreat For WomenIt’s never too early or too late to move your feet in the direction of your heart and begin to open more to your own body, your own pleasure and your own sexuality. While this retreat was not created just for women who have been through infertility, it has been created for all women who have felt that betrayal and loss of connection to their body, and it is being led by me.

I know that this may seem like a vulnerable journey, but according to researcher Brene Brown, “Vulnerability is the birthplace of joy, creativity, and love and whole heartedness.”

When you can be brave enough to lean into this place I truly believe that you will open to an entirely new level of creativity and sexiness in your life. I have finally understood in my heart of hearts that it is my openness to this place within myself that makes me truly beautiful – not my ass, or my breasts. or even my ability to give birth to a child. It is your own connectedness to your own body that makes you beautiful.

Back To The Body: A Sensuous Retreat For WomenThe hard part is often putting the excuses aside. Perhaps it is time or money – or simply the fear of doing something different, sexy and pleasure filled for yourself. But once you make your decision, and put your feet in the direction of your own heart – there is no turning back. This retreat will change your life.

Back to the Body is a unique offering created for women to come together and immerse themselves in the pleasure of their own sensuality in a safe structured environment. More than a circle, this is a retreat that has been created to allow you to connect to your own Inner Goddess in the loving presence of women on a similar journey.

Come be held in Her arms, experience the full sensual possibilities that are present in your glorious body. Ride the waves of pleasure deep into the mysteries of the feminine. Dance in your own desire and play in the full expression of your sexuality. This retreat is limited to six women, and will be facilitated by myself, and two incredible certified somatic sex educators Will Fredericks ( and Ron Stewart (

It’s time to go deeper or celebrate your body! Join us.

A Taste of What You Can Expect:Back To The Body: A Sensuous Retreat For Women

  • Daily Hands on Taoist Sensuous and Healing Body Work Provided By Will Fredericks and Ron Stewart, Certified Sexological Bodyworkers
  • Additional sessions of one on one touch on various areas of your body such as pelvic floor release or  scar tissue remediation
  • Spa services including mani/pedi and facials
  • Organic Cooking and Tantric Dining Experiences
  • Ritual Sensual Bathing Experience
  • Hands on workshops and daily practice with yoga, movement, meditation and dance
  • Opportunities to be silly, laugh and play
  • Group discussions on body image, orgasm, sexuality, speaking desire, the link between sexuality, fertility and our creative nature,  understanding boundaries and how to open to more pleasure in our daily lives.
  • Surprise Events
  • Fun Goody Bag

All participants will receive one “Get To Know You” coaching session with Pamela, Will and Ron as well as one additional coaching session with Pamela after the retreat completes.

This retreat is being held on a property known as Deer Leap. This place is a true sanctuary which will allow you to completely release yourself from daily obligations so that you may fully engage with your own present self, and nourish your body, mind and spirit. To fully immerse yourself in your Back to The Body journey, consider this space a getaway in our beautifully furnished suite.

Back To The Body: A Sensuous Retreat For WomenThe living area is a 800 square-foot studio apartment which boasts vaulted ceilings, a wood burning stove, eclectic furnishings, private deck, and laundry services. This cozy yet spacious suite sleeps 6 people. We are going to have a fabulous sexy pajama party under it’s cozy and restful roof.

The well-equipped kitchen and rustic dining table will show case our amazing organic and communal meal which will sometimes feel like intimate dinners and at other times feel like sumptuous feasts!

The suite has Internet access and TV with DVD player, sound system with iPod connection. The studio/spa is connected to our suite and we have two full bathrooms. The retreat also offers infrared sauna, and a large soaking tub where we will have our bath ritual.

Back To The Body: A Sensuous Retreat For WomenThe property will celebrates its 100th anniversary in 2014 and is a beautiful and majestic reminder of life in simpler times. The suite is located on a seven acre private landscape of trees, mountains and a hike up the hill will be rewarded with views of the ocean.

Originally built as a summer house for a shipping family, Deer Leap has passed through many ages and incarnations and now rests peacefully once more as a gracious home for a thriving family. Our hope is that your time at Deer Leep will welcome in the processes of healing and transformation that will take place through practices of sensuous massage, body scrubs, infrared sauna, dance, yoga, intimate conversations, and a spirit of play.

Back To The Body: A Sensuous Retreat For WomenThe Back to The Body Retreat is the event that will take place as you leave the city and arrive in this quiet part of the world surrounded by natural beauty.

The Important Details:

  • Dates: November 1st, 3pm through November 5th, 3pm
  • Tuition: $4,000 complete with lodgings, all organic and healthy meals, all services and special events. We will also provide transportation to the retreat from airports and ferries, and we will return you too!

If you would like to talk more about the retreat to see if it is right for you, please email me (Pamela) at  to schedule a time to talk.
Currently we have two openings.

I are so looking forward to sharing all of this with you.


About Pam Madsen
Talking, writing, educating and change making in the field of fertility for more than twenty years
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