The other day I wrote a blog called The Choice NOT to have a Baby, Even When You Really Want One, inspired by a blog post by Savvy Auntie, Melanie Notkin. This inspired conversation on Facebook about all the ways that people become childless not by choice. This further led to a conversation about the choices people make when faced with involuntary childlessness – and what language we use to call the decision not to have a child through birth or adoption.
People experience involuntary childlessness for lots of different reasons such as infertility, the desire to be partnered or married to have a child, illness or even a lack of agreement in a couple as to whether or not to have a child.
So if you decide no matter what your life circumstance – that you are not going to build a family through birth or adoption and live your life without having a child – are you “Child Free” or “Child Less”?
I have also gone with the term “Child Free” as I always feel like it comes down to a decision even if you feel like the decision is forced upon you. Everyone always has a choice – even if the choice is one that is filled with sadness, regret and pain. But not everyone buys that.
Some feel that since the choice to have a child easily through birth was taken away – that they are child less.
What do you think? I would love to hear your perspective on this.