Did you know that March 8th was International Women’s Day? Did you know that according to Wikipedia that International’s Women’s Day is “s a major day of global celebration of women. In different regions the focus of the celebrations ranges from general celebration of respect, appreciation and love towards women to a celebration for women’s economic, political and social achievements.
Started as a Socialist political event, the holiday blended in the culture of many countries, primarily Eastern Europe, Russia, and the former Soviet bloc. In many regions, the day lost its political flavour, and became simply an occasion for men to express their love for women in a way somewhat similar to a mixture of Mother’s Day and St Valentine’s Day. In other regions, however, the original political and human rights theme designated by the United Nations runs strong, and political and social awareness of the struggles of women worldwide are brought out and examined in a hopeful manner”. Who knew? I didn’t.
But you learn everything in life on Facebook! And that is where i found out that I had indeed missed International Women’s Day. I kind of felt a little bit better when I realized that I wrote about being a Fearless Woman yesterday.
Being fearless has been kind of a theme for me in the past few weeks ever since the “Fertility Authority” featured my blog and they described me by calling me “Fearless”. It kind of made me smile because I had never thought of myself as fearless – to me I was perhaps shameless. But fearless?
What I do know is that, like so many women around the world, I have had an incredible and varied life. I live full out. I play full court – and I make no excuses for myself. And for so many women, we live in a time where we can finally integrate our lives. Now, once upon a time – I didn’t integrate my life. Because women are never actually encouraged to do this. We are expected to be one thing or another….We are either “professional” or “homemakers” – we are either “Madonnas or Whores”. But what if you were allowed as a woman to have a fully integrated life? What if you could have a professional life, and still have a family? What if being a successful lawyer didn’t mean that you could still also be around to cook for your family if that pleased you? What if you could be wearing sexy lacy panties under your business suit – and was meeting your lover for some fabulous sexual adventure after work? Could women truly have it all? Isn’t this what we have been saying with the introduction of egg freezing? That it is okay to freeze your eggs now – and have your children later while you were figuring the rest of your life out? That you didn’t have to choose? That everything could happen in it’s own good time and that women could integrate their lives as they saw fit?
Was this possible? Maybe not everywhere in the world right now perhaps – but I do believe that this possibility does exist right now in many places of the globe.
Think about it. Could we actually be mothers, Madonnas, workers and sexual beings all at the same time? Would society know how to wrap their arms around that? What is going on with women who are hooked up to machines in a study to look at their sexual response – and their bodies register a response to the visual stimulation but the woman’s mind does not? What is going on? How do we help women connect these dots? There is something incredibly broken in that.
I think that we are getting closer to putting the pieces together. But we will never get there if a woman’s sexuality is still used to punish her. And even today – it is. But like New Hampshire passing gay marriage – we are a country in transition. And I believe that we are closer than ever to supporting women living fully integrated lives.
Sociologists and sex perts are finally writing about the new integrated woman – and that’s a start. But who are the brave women out there who will do it and speak it?
Can you wear something sexy to work and still be taken seriously? For a good long while – before Katie Couric showed her legs on The Today Show – the answer was no. But I have been watching those anchor women in the morning – and their sexuality has been starting to bloom – even as they have interviewed Presidents and talked about the issues that their kids were having in school. I love that. They are all people – and they do not hide their sexuality – their motherhood or their professional smarts. They are clear that all of those pieces of themselves is a part of who they are as women.
And I have been as guilty of it as the next person. There was this one pharmacy rep that sent out this really sexy picture of herself in a Christmas outfit last year – and everyone was tearing her apart. How dare she? Who did she think she was? How could she show herself as sexy and playful? She was after all a “Professional”!!!! Oh well. Perhaps we were all a little jealous of her carefree, youthful and yes – sexy spirit! What is it that gets us all fired up? Is it that we think that we are supposed to be this judgmental? Or were we simply happy to dismiss her as a slut? It was after all so much easier than seeing her as a full person.
I love that Oprah is getting on the band wagon. Several recent shows have explored a woman’s sexuality – and she has even taken sex toys to the stage. Oprah is saying that she cares about women being integrated beings when she does these kinds of shows. And I love that.
But women are still persecuted today for being sexual beings. Recently one of the Miss America’s made big news when some topless photos showed up of her – you see – she was allowed to look sexy – to tantalize us in her bikini body – but not actually show us her breasts. Kind of interesting huh? In the end – The Donald realized how silly it all was – and the girl has her crown for a little while longer!
I love that we have a first lady who has the right to bare arms and those fabulous legs. Our first lady – and frankly our President are clearly sexually integrated people. They are alive – and that aliveness permeates everything that they do. Mrs. Obama can be sexy and serious – and be a parent. She is able to be a full woman – and I love that she is being a role model for other women in this regard.
I have been talking a lot lately about how confused we are as a nation when it comes to our gender roles, our sexuality, and what is allow able and what is not. We get glimpses of celebrities who are under the full view finder of the camera being sexual beings – and it freaks us out in the moment. Whether it is Brittany Spears forgetting her panties – or Paris Hilton’s private sex tape (by the way I recently saw that in the Museum of Sex). But I am hoping that this too shall pass.
Look to France where a nude portrait of French President Nicolas Sarkozy’s wife Carla Bruni will go under the hammer in New York next month, according to auctioneers Christie’s.
The 13 x 10 1/8 inch gelatin silver black and white photograph was taken in 1993, when Bruni was one of the world’s top fashion models, and is being sold by art collector Gert Elfering.
Carla Bruni who is now beloved by all – started her public life as a mistress, actress, and as a model that sometimes posed nude. Yet she looked quite lovely when she met the Queen of England. Yes – my dearies – we can live in full color and have integrated lives. Nothing is stopping you but a little bit of fear – and concern about whether or not you will be taken seriously if you dare be all of the parts of you.
And it just one day past International Women’s Day! Take my hand – the water is fine.